Justice Isn’t Blind, It’s Bought

Back in the day, we watched The People’s Court and thought that was how justice worked: swift, decisive, and generally logical. We believed that the system was a safety net designed to catch us if we fell.

Boy, were we wrong.

While that may seem like a bold statement, it’s not. As a matter of fact, it’s something that most family courts are heavily criticized for today. But nobody wants to talk about it until it happens to them.

Believe me. I am fully aware that half the people reading a headline like this do so while “rolling their eyes” because it seems so far-fetched. Victims get used to not being believed or heard. Nobody wants to actually believe that the system they rely on is there “for them” fails them at the most crucial moment. It’s easier to scroll past, watch a cat video, and pretend the world makes sense.

However, I am a victim of this. Turns out, I am just one of many victims of the corrupt family courts here in New Hampshire and beyond. It’s this ignorance and resistance to listening to the victim that continues the codification of “parental alienation” in the family court system. It’s these sorts of things that make a personally painful system even worse for the victim.

The Personal Hell: When the System Breaks You

I am not embarrassed to tell you that I still cry once a day. Literally, once every day for over a year. I don’t really care about my “man card” at this point.

Why? Because the situation that Cheshire County Attorneys placed me in destroyed any hope for reconciliation. As a matter of fact, the family I once had… is done. That person I used to be is destroyed.

It didn’t have to be this way.

Instead, I was gaslighted. Anything I said was ignored. I was intentionally misled by the system that I paid taxes to support. I have done everything a father could have done and beyond… just to have one of my concerns heard. I was ignored. That lack of attention to my serious concerns created an environment where the consistent abuse from parental alienation took hold.

It was an enriched environment provided by the system that was supposed to be “looking out for me” – the victim.

Imagine screaming into a void while watching your child slowly turn into a stranger. That’s not a scene from a horror movie; that’s how it works in Family Court.

The Silver Bullet Method: A Weapon of Mass Destruction

The few blog posts I have written on the subject flooded my inbox with so many stories that had a similar structure I thought I was being “punked”. Surely, this same pattern could not be seen by so many people but it has.

I have had over twenty different conversations describing the same sort of situation that I faced. It is so prevalent that it has a name within certain circles. It’s called “The Silver Bullet Method“.

I have heard from people within the family court system talk about actual training seminars where “The Silver Bullet Method” is taught. I have also confirmed a “template” is in many women’s support centers. So, what is it?

According to legal experts and resources like Attorney at Law Magazine, the Silver Bullet Method refers to the strategic use of false allegations of abuse to gain an upper hand in custody battles.

False allegations, often filed without prior documentation of abuse or mediation attempts, are increasingly used in divorce and custody proceedings. In my experience, unlike traditional restraining orders that typically require documented evidence of physical abuse, Silver Bullet cases rely on unsubstantiated claims.

It works like a cheat code in a video game, only the losers are the children.

Family courts use this as a “safety net”. When it comes to any sort of juvenile situation there seems to be far too much pressure on a very liberal system to exonerate the youth at all costs. After all, they are young and deserve a second chance. Perhaps, that is true when a juvenile shows remorse. But not all do, especially with decades of Parental Alienation in the mix.

Legalized Child Abuse

Courts do not typically recognize parental alienation and when combined with the “Silver Bullet Method” it creates a devastating outcome for one parent… while giving the other… full control.

The main goal of Parental Alienation is control.

It simply is a legal form of child abuse.

Think about it. You are taking a child’s history, their lineage, their other half, and surgically removing it with lies and manipulation. And the court? The court hands them the scalpel.

When a parent is erased from a child’s life based on fabrication, the child suffers a loss akin to death, but with the confusing reality that the parent is still alive and “doesn’t want them” (according to the alienator). It creates a psychological wound that may never heal. And in New Hampshire, it feels like we are just watching it happen in slow motion.

Robert Garza

A Glimmer of Hope: The Texas Example

After speaking with so many suffering parents I looked into trying to create a law to stop some of the loopholes. I reached out to a US Senator, New Hampshire’s Governor Kelly Ayotte and a few others. The silence has been deafening, but I’m used to the noise of the 90s grunge scene, so I can handle a little static.

Hopefully, I will be making some progress on this but in the meantime I have been researching bills that are in place. Particularly, in Texas.

That’s where I have learned about Texas Dad Robert Garza.

Robert Garza is the father behind Senate Bill 718, known as the “Time Taken Time Back” law, which was successfully passed by Governor Abbott in 2023.

This guy is a hero. He didn’t just sit back and take it; he fought the system and won.

Texas Senate Bill 718 (SB 718) from the 2023 legislative session addresses child possession time, allowing for extra access to compensate for denied court-ordered visits, effective September 1, 2023, sponsored by Sen. Angela Paxton.

Key Aspects of Senate Bill 718 (SB 718 – 2023):
Topic: Family Law, specifically child custody and visitation rights.
Purpose: To provide additional time with a child for a parent who was wrongfully denied their court-ordered visitation.
Status: Passed and effective in 2023.

Now, if you go Googling this, be careful. Many recent search results discuss House Bill 718 (HB 718), a significant 2023 law that eliminates most paper temporary license plates. That’s great for fighting fraud, but we are talking about fighting for our kids here. We are talking about SB 718.

This law is simple common sense. If you steal time from a parent, you have to pay it back. It’s the “Time Taken Time Back” policy. It disincentivizes the alienating parent from playing games with the schedule because they know the court will just award that time back to the victimized parent later.

It removes the power trip.

Why New Hampshire Needs a Wake-Up Call

While my child seems to be gone, as I do not recognize his cruel actions since the court codified the years of parental alienation I desperately tried to counter, perhaps there is hope for the rest of the families destroyed by an ignorant family court system.

We need a Robert Garza in New Hampshire. We need our own “Time Taken Time Back” law.

I look around at my fellow Gen Xers. We are the ones in charge now, supposedly. We are the parents. We are the voters. Why are we letting an antiquated, broken system run by people who view our families as docket numbers destroy us?

It’s time to bring that same energy we had when we were fighting for our right to party. We need to channel that into fighting for our right to parent.

The global movement to end parental alienation is growing, as seen in publications like Severed Voices. We aren’t alone. There are thousands of us, walking around with holes in our hearts where our children used to be, all because a lawyer in Cheshire thought it would be an easy win to file a false motion.

The Final Take

I’m tired of crying once a day. I’m tired of the “Silver Bullet” being the gold standard for legal strategy.

If Texas can figure this out, surely New Hampshire can. We claim to be the “Live Free or Die” state, but there is no freedom in a system that imprisons you in a web of lies and keeps you from your children.

It’s time to demand accountability. It’s time to stop rolling our eyes at the headlines and start realizing that the next victim could be you, your brother, or your son.

The family I once had is gone – thanks to the failure of the Cheshire County Attorney’s office. But yours doesn’t have to be.